Couples & Sex Therapy

"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; 
what is essential is invisible to the eye"
​(Antoine de Saint-Exupery)

Relationships are central in life. We are born in a relationship and would not be able to survive if another person did not speak for us and fulfilled our needs initially. As we grow and develop, however, we become more complex beings and it is not so easy for someone else to recognize what our needs and wants are.  When two people are in a romantic relationship for a long time, eventually there are going to be storms. When things get tough, emotional and physical intimacy suffer and it is hard to feel heard or to listen. Life also presents many transitions (such as the birth of a baby, relocation, serious illnesses, bereavement, a new job) that force couples to review and renegotiate their roles and commitment to each other. Couples therapy can help the two of you reconnect and develop effective ways of communicating. You will learn how to express your needs clearly and how to respond positively to your partner’s. In addition to communication training or problem-solving skills, couples therapy will help the two of you build a bridge of love and acceptance, appreciating what each one brings to the relationship.   All couples therapy includes a discussion of the couple’s sexual life as a reflection of their overall functioning. You will be guided on how to be fulfilled and sexually healthy.  If there are more concerning difficulties in the bedroom, sex therapy techniques will be used to overcome them. Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on the intimate feelings, actions and history of your sex life. Many people are insecure and shy to discuss their sexual life. Others are misinformed about human sexuality and what to expect. You will learn how to develop a warm assertive sexual dialogue with your partner in order to get the love and sex you have wanted! 

"Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.” 
(Sigmund Freud)

Dr. Portela's office is located at:

6512 Six Forks Rd, suite 403B Raleigh NC 27615 By Appointment Only. 

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